Kegels: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About “Those Balls” But Were Too Afraid To Ask.

As you all know, our beloved Nik is a multi-dimensional woman with oh so many talents. Writing isn’t one of them. This kind of makes her New Year’s Resolution a little difficult to fulfill… You see, what she wants to do more than anything this year (other than send her kids back to school and go out with her girlfriends) is to educate people about sex. But not merely sex. We’re talking all aspects of sexuality – the way we think about it, the way we do it, masturbation, self-care, relationships, vaginas and everything else in between. Her main focus is to share her knowledge and spread the love and awareness (God knows we could all do with a bit of that right now) and this amazing platform, this website, is her way of doing so.

This is where I come in. I am a writer and sexpert myself and Nik and I work rather well together. She blurts out all her immense knowledge to me, I put it down in some coherent manner and add my own bits and bobs, and then you guys get to read the end product and hopefully walk away a little more informed.


We will be creating a series of helpful, fun, straight to the point articles to help you and your vagina live your best life.

Kegels: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About “Those Balls” But Were Too Afraid To Ask.

Whilst the vagina is a flexible organ, we must also remember that it’s muscular and elastic. This means that, over time, the muscles naturally loosen, elasticity is lost and then we’re looking at possible incontinence (meh) and “loose sex” (when you can’t feel your man inside you not because his penis has shrunk but because your vaginal grip isn’t what it used to be.) This is where the Kegel Balls come in handy. Want to know more? Read on!

To learn more about Pelvic Floor Muscles see:

So what are they exactly?

Kegel Balls are clever little balls that are used while performing Kegel exercises to help women progressively strengthen their pelvic floor muscles. It’s important to note that you don’t have to be actually doing the Kegel exercises, and that merely holding the balls inside your vagina using your pelvic floor muscles will do the job.


Ben Wa Balls are a similar product, usually smaller in size and sans cord. Nik recommends balls that come with a cord option to pop the balls into, like this nifty little gem Rianne S – Play Kegel Balls . If you wish to amp things up a little, the vibrating Kegels may be the one for you or even the weighted balls that roll around inside a silicone layer (they give a hmm hmm delightful sensation.)

Browse all the different types here

Not just for mums and grandmas!

So you haven’t had a child, or you’re still a youngster, and you think you’re too cool for the Kegels? Actually, Kegels are not only for fixing bladder problems or aiding with post-birth recovery and just post-pregnancy. All women, whether they went through a c-section or natural birthing, will reap the benefits from strengthening their pelvic floor muscles. Young people are huge on using the Kegels to boost their sex life.



A stronger pelvic floor muscle creates a more intense contraction during orgasm. Do the math – a tighter vaginal grip will feel better for both you and your man. So, basically, the Kegels are for anyone who owns a vagina.


Quaratine is the perfect time to get started with Kegel Balls. Our politicians and medical staff have instructed us to keep up the physical exercise whilst in ISO. This applies to your cha cha as well ladies!

All it takes is 15min a day.

I guarantee you will end up wanting to use them more often. The beauty about these little balls is that no one will know you have them inside of you. Nik and I use them when we’re cooking or putting the washing away! How will you incorporate them into your daily routine?


Weight training doesn’t just happen at the gym.

Every set of balls has a different size and weight – anything from 10 grams to 100 grams. Ideally, you want to start small. The heavier the balls, the harder you have to work to hold them inside. If you use them regularly (daily is best), you can increase the weight gradually as you feel vag muscles getting stronger.

So which one is the right one for you?

Different sizes, material, weight and colour – which one to choose? As all you smart ladies know, we’re all made differently, so it’s imperative to choose the right Kegel Balls for your lady bits.

No strings attached.

Kegel balls come with or without strings attached. The string makes it easier to remove the balls and are, therefore, much loved by beginners. Stringless balls (sounds wrong) are a set of individual Kegel Balls which have the same insertion method, but the more advanced user prefers… It takes things up a notch. Just be sure not to shove them too far up where you can’t comfortably retrieve them. All the Kegels you will find on For Her Box are of high-quality, and have been meticulously selected by Nik. She has a broad range catering for beginners and those who are familiar with the balls but wish to try something new.

How far up can they go?

Don’t be afraid that they will get “lost” inside of you. They won’t. Your vagina has a closing at the top, called the cervix, so it is physically impossible for your balls (much like tampons) to go swimming “upstream”.

How do you use them?

  1. Apply water-based lubricant liberally over the balls and your vaginal opening;
  2. Lie down in a comfortable position and relax (take some deep breaths here);
  3. Slowly insert the Kegels into your vagina;
  4. The balls are usually connected to one another with a piece of string (usually silicone.) Once the first ball is inserted inside of your vagina, tuck in the string and slowly insert the second ball;
  5. Push the Kegels as far inside your vagina as you are comfortable. If your balls have a removal string/loop, leave that hanging outside for easy access when you have finished with your Kegel sesh;
  6. Tighten your muscles to hold the Kegel Balls inside of you; and
  7. Go about your day and have fun!

How does it feel?


It varies from person to person; generally, it is a subtle sensation which is amplified with movement. Some women report feeling sexually stimulated, whilst others don’t get aroused by them whatsoever.

The doc is in the house

Kegel Balls are generally safe to use at any time except in the following circumstances:

• During pregnancy or within 6 weeks childbirth;

• If pelvic infections or pelvic pain are present;

• Post any gynaecological or urological surgery;

• If you are currently using a menstrual cup; and

•If you have an intrauterine device.



Always consult your health care professional for any concerns and questions you may have. It shouldn’t hurt, so if it does stop using them immediately and consult your doc. Don’t be embarrassed, sexual health is not a taboo topic, and your doctor will be used to it.

Now that you’re ready to have some ball play, below is a list of our recommendations. Feel free to look around the rest of our site; we have around 50 different Kegel Balls to choose from. (Yep, we’re kind of fanatical about them.)

Nik’s Kegel ball shopping guide

Nik’s top pick

The Diamonds Set. It’s reasonably priced, comes in various weights and has a storage case for them


The Lovelife Krush Exerciser comes with its own built-in sensor and phone app. How cool is that?!


If you’re on a budget, but still want a variety of weights, one of the Satisfyer Kits is perfect for you.

Can’t decide?

The Fifty Shade of Grey range has quite a few options to choose from. Remember: Kegels are not just for toning and strengthening your pelvic floor muscles, they can be used as a sex toy to stimulate your G-spot as well.

Something with a bit more oomph

This baby vibrates and comes with an adorable storage bag rianne-s-pulsy-playball-rose-remote-controlled-sensualpelvic-floor-trainer-kegel-ball-with-free-bag/

Crowd pleaser

Everyone’s favourite brand We-vibe has made the Bloom which works by screwing on your desired weight (comes with 3 balls.) Clever!

We would love to hear from you guys. Let us know any comments or questions that you may have.

Have you ever tried the Kegels and have you noticed a difference?

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Signing off, Guest blogger Lay Down Sally, she lays down the rules for great sex.

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